Wedding Season: Is the Happy Couple Financially Ready?

It's wedding season.  Is the happy couple financially ready?

Most couples when they tie the knot haven't reviewed some important financial items when they marry.  Granted in today's American culture, more than 70% of couples marrying have been living together.  I could not believe this statistic when I read it in the Wall Street Journal's article The Gifts on Every Wedding List by Sue Shellenbarger.  What amazes me is how much time, effort and attention to detail each couple getting married spends on the wedding registry as well as wedding planning and yet they tend to overlook certain matters such as finances and debt.  Setting up house is just as important as setting your financial affairs in order.  With today's couple marrying in their late 20s, each has had an opportunity to accumulate some items as well as some debt or savings. 

First, it is important that you both review your last tax return statement, your investments and financial statements, your debt (credit card, student loans, auto loan, etc...), your assets and your income(s).

Second, once you've determined your combined net worth statement, it is important to review your financial goals for before, during and just after you marry.  Are you planning to buy a house and have two condos to sell?  Do you have $120,000 in student loan debt?  Are you working your way through college?  Are you paying for your wedding?  Where you both are and where you plan to be after you marry is important to review, determine a financial game-plan and then forecast how you aim to achieve this financially.

Third, it is important to decide as a couple how you both plan to go forward from your wedding day.  Will you both relocate to a new city and be a first-time homeowner?  Will you merge your salaries and pay off those student loans?  Is one of you returning to school while the other works to support you both? 

Fourth, upon review of your goals, dreams and/or plan, then it is wise to develop a spending plan.  How much money will you have coming in?  How much money will you have to spend on your relocation?  How much will you need to purchase that house?

Finally, once you've reviewed this initial game plan, then it is wise to seek accountability with a financial advisor, a parent or trusted person, and/or your premarital counselor.  Gaining wisdom from those who have been married a long time will enhance your decision-making for the early days of your marriage. 

I recently read the book The Family CFO: The Couple's Business Plan for Love and Money by Mary Claire Allvine and Christine Larson.  It's a neat book that I wish my husband and I had when we were merging our households together.  Now I am not going to do a book review here, but merely offer it as a good resource to read and check out.  I've read also Dave Ramsey's book Financial Peace and really appreciated the approach to marriage from both couple's perspectives.  Regardless of how you start your marriage, it is important to get some good premarital counseling and discuss your fianances. 

BTW, if you do not get good quality premarital counseling, then I highly recommend that you seek another way to get superior premarital counseling....Our minister just saw with us for three sessions and it was too vague, broad and general for what modern couples need.  We should have pursued another premarital setup that went into great detail.  Marriage is never easy and having this kind of opportunity to work on premarital issues will really make you and your soon to be spouse at ease during your wedding years.  For those in the military, it's easy to marry and walk into marriage so please contact Military OneSource as well as the base chaplain for more ways to better prepare for marriage. 

From a faith-based perspective, I strongly advise couples marrying today to study what the Bible says about marriage, understand your role as husband/wife, and seek ways to work on your marriage.  It is important to pray for one another.  It is important to spend time together as as couple.  It is important to communicate well.  It is important to manage your finances well together.  In reading the Biblical Marriage, it reminds all readers that the most important relationship in your life is your spouse.  It can provide the most joy and happiness and yet it can provide the most pain, heartache and lasting scars of any relationship.  More people are delaying marriage until their late twenties.  There is nothing wrong with marriage at a young age as long as the people in love go into it for the right reasons. 

Marriage is a wonderful institution where a man and a woman commit themselves to each other, and their wedding day is when that commitment is made public.  While everyone loves to see a beautiful wedding, the wedding dress, the flowers, the reception, and all the other fun and exciting things that go with each wedding, it is a distraction from what's important.  A man and woman are getting married.  Focusing on this union is what's important.  I wish each Couple-To-Be great happiness.

This is Part One on this article and I will write Part Two and post later.