These questions among many others present a rude awakening to some families that they are not a united team. Some may blame the busy schedules such as work or sports. I know of many families stressed to the point of yelling at their children or driving themselves nuts just trying to make it on time to a sports event for their child. One dance recital was scheduled on a Sunday morning which is unbelievable to me since the majority of patrons denounced this and some refused to participate in their child's dance recital (that's just WRONG in my mom book).
Divorce rates are high and could be higher were it not for high attendance at marriage classes and Sunday School. The divorce attorneys are eager for more business as the same sex marriage act passed in New York (unbelievable since few remain committed to the same partner for very long...a research fact that I am not making up).
Fathers need to be around and are important. Over 70% of black babies are born to single mothers (as many are incarcerated or are in gangs soon to be incarcerated) [Bringing up Boys by Dr. Dobson]. Strong male leadership is low, and men lack etiquette. More women earn degrees and fill up those colleges and universities. Even the Washington Times article on Guys got it Made? Think Again is garnering some attention here. Where is the man in America? It takes two to make a family function. It takes a man to step up and be the leader of the family.
Mothers need to cool it and be. Women are a wonderful breed and adapt well to multitasking. Frustration levels are high due to working, weight gain, stress, depression, and yes, finances. For some, men are not around and the working mom struggles to do it all. I read Mary Kay's book You Can Have It All and that is for the overachiever. Most of us are just trying to do the basics. No mom can have it all and expect her family to stay in tact unless she is my hero of a superstar. (There are some out there).
Problems such as drugs, addictions (ex. the computer, the blackberry, overcommitment, drugs, alcohol, sex, or other), and other major problems lead to more negatives than positives. Please consult your church or a professional. While I write this online, you have a choice to make things better. Help may not be readily available but you can start simply by taking things one minute at a time. Not easy but it will get better with patience and believing in your decision to do better.
With more families struggling to be these days, it is important that American Families REUNITE and do things together.
- Stop the insane running around to playdates.
- Stop checking your blackberry every two minutes...it can wait.
- Stop and think about your lifestyle choices.
By spending time with your family, you can enjoy no costly divorce bills, no excessive spending to make up for the pain you caused yor kids or no nightmare fighting with people you gave your heart to. Even more important is rebuilding the American family to redo what is evolving in our country....the breakdown of the family.
This holiday weekend, I wish everyone a joyous celebration and encourage you to reunite your American family. Nothing fancy but a phone call and say hey let's get together because we can! I challenge you American Families to Reunite! God bless you all.
From one disgruntled male that is good financial food for thought about this topic....
ReplyDeleteWhat they should put on marriage licenses today is the following: If you are a man and you get married and then have children and get divorced, the following can happen to you:
1. You can be ostracized from your own home and children based on a mere false allegation of domestic abuse. As a result of said allegation, it is an automatic divorce petition depriving you of your liberties and property rights, as well as limiting the time you have with your children. You will be branded as a "wife batterer" , an "angry man", or as an "outlaw".
2. You can have all of your assets and wages seized and redistributed to the custodial parent (the female in over 90% of all cases) in the form of alimony and nontaxable child support. Child support is ordered so onerously that it becomes a tax-free de facto alimony for the female spouse. She who has the children controls the money.
3. If you lose your job, your support obligations will not cease. If you fall into child support or alimony arrearages, you can be imprisoned for debt indefinitely. In fact, you will be imprisoned for months or weeks at a time, and released only upon your promise to pay. When you can't pay, you will be tossed in jail again and again and again. I know several fathers who have been thrown in jail a dozen times or more for a combined total of years. All because the government-induced recession caused their loss of job and the anti-male, gender-biased courts refused to reduce the support obligations. You will also lose your driver's license unless you can pay your support obligations. This obviously makes no sense, since you need your car to get to work.
4. You will lose your home to greedy attorneys fees and wind up being impoverished to the point that you will either live in your friend's or parent's basement, or your car. You'll be lucky to get an apartment.
5. You will be constantly deprived of your children, regardless of court-ordered parenting time, because the gender-biase courts won't enforce parenting time with the same vigor as enforcing support.
6. Your children will become alienated against you by a malicious mother in most divorce cases who will want to raise the children her way, regardless of her morality or immorality, and if she remarries and wants the new husband to be their dad. These statistics are proveable and available on line.
7. You will begin to suffer post-traumatic stress disorder, maybe become alcoholic or drug-addicted. You will be under constant stress because you are being subjected to a totalitarian system designed to help the custodial parent against the noncustodial parent, in order to control the children and the money flow.
After reading this, if you think you want to get married, do so with both eyes opened, and don't tell the spouse where you have all your assets, property, guns, collectibles, etc.
This is why there is a quiet "marriage strike" going on this country. Less and less men are getting married because of what I've said above. Also, more and more men are eschewing college for the trades because the colleges teach them feminist garbage that gets you nowhere in the working world.
What they should put on marriage licenses today is the following: If you are a man and you get married and then have children and get divorced, the following can happen to you:
ReplyDelete1. You can be ostracized from your own home and children based on a mere false allegation of domestic abuse. As a result of said allegation, it is an automatic divorce petition depriving you of your liberties and property rights, as well as limiting the time you have with your children. You will be branded as a "wife batterer" , an "angry man", or as an "outlaw".
2. You can have all of your assets and wages seized and redistributed to the custodial parent (the female in over 90% of all cases) in the form of alimony and nontaxable child support. Child support is ordered so onerously that it becomes a tax-free de facto alimony for the female spouse. She who has the children controls the money.
3. If you lose your job, your support obligations will not cease. If you fall into child support or alimony arrearages, you can be imprisoned for debt indefinitely. In fact, you will be imprisoned for months or weeks at a time, and released only upon your promise to pay. When you can't pay, you will be tossed in jail again and again and again. I know several fathers who have been thrown in jail a dozen times or more for a combined total of years. All because the government-induced recession caused their loss of job and the anti-male, gender-biased courts refused to reduce the support obligations. You will also lose your driver's license unless you can pay your support obligations. This obviously makes no sense, since you need your car to get to work.
4. You will lose your home to greedy attorneys fees and wind up being impoverished to the point that you will either live in your friend's or parent's basement, or your car. You'll be lucky to get an apartment.
5. You will be constantly deprived of your children, regardless of court-ordered parenting time, because the gender-biase courts won't enforce parenting time with the same vigor as enforcing support.
6. Your children will become alienated against you by a malicious mother in most divorce cases who will want to raise the children her way, regardless of her morality or immorality, and if she remarries and wants the new husband to be their dad. These statistics are proveable and available on line.
7. You will begin to suffer post-traumatic stress disorder, maybe become alcoholic or drug-addicted. You will be under constant stress because you are being subjected to a totalitarian system designed to help the custodial parent against the noncustodial parent, in order to control the children and the money flow.
After reading this, if you think you want to get married, do so with both eyes opened, and don't tell the spouse where you have all your assets, property, guns, collectibles, etc.
This is why there is a quiet "marriage strike" going on this country. Less and less men are getting married because of what I've said above. Also, more and more men are eschewing college for the trades